So..., I'm the third last one(Teresa and Alan didn't blog yet) to blog and I'm not sure how to blog since i never blogged before. Anyways, I'm blogging because I'm bored and no one has been blogging lately so here goes.... Lately, my friend and I weren't really talking to each other, in fact, he has been ignoring and this was what happened.
Last week, i was at Cantonese school and he was practicing tae-kwon-do on me. For self-defense, i hit him (accidentally, not on purpose) and he says it hurt really bad(there wasn't a bruise or a cut, by the way) and also his tae-kwon-do moves hurt double as much of what i did to him so i don't know why he's complaining about that. After that, he went back to his group and told his group mates that he should 'get new friends'(note that he is, in fact, an atheist. I know because he told me. Also, he is a honour student and he talks behind people's back like the time he wrote a quiz about his teacher being a total fail since she always make mistakes in a class. That teacher is my history/geography teacher, i don't care if she makes mistakes and she is a christian. I know because she told my class and many others.).
Obviously, i felt kind of offended because that was kind of 'mean' to say that I wasn't a very good person. In the next following days or next week, every time i tried to talk to him, he ignores me and gives me the silent treatment. He evens spends more time with his other friends than me like he used to. I tried to ask him why he wasn't talking to me but he didn't give an answer. When i got back home on Thursday, i started my computer and noticed that he replied to a quiz on FaceBook in a negative way and that really lowered my hopes of still being friends.
Its almost the end of the year and I still want to be friends with him even though he is going to ACCI(Albert Campbell) and I'm going to ACI(Agincourt). So can you please pray for me and him to give me strength to confront him and discuss the problem.
Thanks and hope to see ya at fellowship and Sunday school! :]
-Billy
P.S.:If this post looks weird, don't blame me, this is my first post.
Last week, i was at Cantonese school and he was practicing tae-kwon-do on me. For self-defense, i hit him (accidentally, not on purpose) and he says it hurt really bad(there wasn't a bruise or a cut, by the way) and also his tae-kwon-do moves hurt double as much of what i did to him so i don't know why he's complaining about that. After that, he went back to his group and told his group mates that he should 'get new friends'(note that he is, in fact, an atheist. I know because he told me. Also, he is a honour student and he talks behind people's back like the time he wrote a quiz about his teacher being a total fail since she always make mistakes in a class. That teacher is my history/geography teacher, i don't care if she makes mistakes and she is a christian. I know because she told my class and many others.).
Obviously, i felt kind of offended because that was kind of 'mean' to say that I wasn't a very good person. In the next following days or next week, every time i tried to talk to him, he ignores me and gives me the silent treatment. He evens spends more time with his other friends than me like he used to. I tried to ask him why he wasn't talking to me but he didn't give an answer. When i got back home on Thursday, i started my computer and noticed that he replied to a quiz on FaceBook in a negative way and that really lowered my hopes of still being friends.
Its almost the end of the year and I still want to be friends with him even though he is going to ACCI(Albert Campbell) and I'm going to ACI(Agincourt). So can you please pray for me and him to give me strength to confront him and discuss the problem.
Thanks and hope to see ya at fellowship and Sunday school! :]
-Billy
P.S.:If this post looks weird, don't blame me, this is my first post.
thanks for sharing, billy:)
ReplyDeleteI'm sure he'll realize you're a good person in the end.
first of all, welcome billy, good to see the inner you here.
ReplyDeleteyour buddy there is probably one of those who needs "face", and by taking an "uncool" hit from you, of course he feels bitter. His act of revenge is fairly obvious. The point is not at who has the stronger hit. True friends don't break off by mere miscommunications. They can work things out. (why did you throw a punch at him in the first place? i know it is an accident, but how did it turn into a punch?)
Now, how long his silly act will last depends how mature he is. He can go on forever, believe it or not... your best bet is to be who you are, and treat him the way he should be. Say hi to him, smile at him ... just be polite to him. Rather he takes it or not, that's his business, you have done your share.
Again... don't worry too much about what people say, if what he says about you is true, then there must be room for you to improve. If it is false, the joke is on him.
good to see you here, i hope to see your posts more often.
Umm...wonder where you learned the "confront" part! hehe...
ReplyDeleteBe aware not to confront your friend if he is not mature enough to take it yet. He could be more defensive, so could make things worse.
There is a place for confrontation, but I don't advice you'll use it on your friend this time.
I like Andrew's advice. Continue to be who you are and prove him wrong by your love and good deeds.
God bless. Praying for you! :)
lol thanks. i kinda talked to this friend today and he responded(finally)and i kinda felt relieved that he was talking back. He is still kind of mean in a way but at least we're still friends :)
ReplyDeletewoah billy.. u r a man of a few words during fellowship... but u can write pretty well... A LOT better than me when i was in gr 12... but i havent improved since gr. 12 really.. so i guess u seem to write better than me now!
ReplyDeletegood to hear he responded... at the end of the day, friends will b friends... but i think u should treat everyone the same and assume everyone will treat u the same... otherwise in the end, u'll b hurt and b left saying things like "o no wonder he did that, he's not Christian" or "y would he do such a thing, he's Christian"... know that we're all humans and no one is perfect... put ur trust in the Lord and He'll be with you under every circumstance. cause just because someone is Christian, it doesnt mean he will handle every situation the Christian way...
i think it's awesome that you wanna patch things up instead of just leaving it to be.
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah, just like what everyone else has said, worry about your own actions. From what I read, so far you're doing great by showing that you're not gonna retaliate, but you want to forgive and be friends again.